When was the last time you took yourself on a date? The cinema, a restaurant, or a walk in the park—spending quality time with yourself?
This week, we’ll explore the incredible benefits of spending time alone, illustrated by one of my student’s inspiring stories. I’ll also share some practical steps you can take to make the most of your solitary moments, so read on to learn how to harness the power of spending time with yourself.
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Journey of Discovery: A Student’s Transformation
A few years ago, I had the pleasure of teaching a brilliant young student named Emily. She was hardworking, ambitious, and eager to learn, but always overwhelmed by her responsibilities. Juggling school, work, and an incredibly active social life left her feeling burnt out and disconnected from herself.
We talked about taking some alone time to try to unwind. Shortly after our discussions, she decided to step back and dedicate one hour each day to spending time alone, free from distractions. And what began as a simple exercise quickly blossomed into a profound transformation. Emily discovered that this quiet, uninterrupted time allowed her to reflect on her thoughts and emotions, and she gradually developed a deeper understanding of her own needs and desires.
With this newfound sense of self, Emily could make essential changes in her life. She gained the confidence to pursue her passions, find a balance between work and play, and cultivate stronger relationships with those around her. Today, she credits her remarkable growth to the power of spending time alone.
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An important point we need to clarify about spending time with yourself is that no distractions are allowed. If your time with yourself is spent watching YouTube videos or going through Facebook, then you are not with yourself; you are actually with some external stimuli that do not provide you with any meaningful insight to do with yourself. It’s OK to spend some of the solitude time reading a meaningful book or listening to a relevant podcast, but there has to be some solitude time with zero technology, to enable quiet self-observation.
Unlocking the Benefits of Solitude
Emily’s story is a testament to the incredible benefits that solitude can bring. By dedicating time to self-reflection and introspection, we can better understand our thoughts, feelings, and desires. Imagine that you have all those pieces of a puzzle floating in your mind, and they want to fall into place and provide a clear picture, an answer, but you never take the time to chillax and let them sink into place. Then you take the time and spend time alone, without distractions, and the confusing pieces become a clear message.
This, in turn, enables us to make better decisions, improve our relationships, and lead more fulfilling lives. Here are some key benefits of spending time alone:
Increased self-awareness: Alone time allows you to explore your thoughts and feelings without the influence of others, helping you develop a more accurate understanding of who you are and what you want from life.
Enhanced creativity: Solitude provides the perfect environment for brainstorming, problem-solving, and imaginative thinking. Without the distractions of daily life, your mind is free to wander and make connections that might otherwise go unnoticed.
Reduced stress and anxiety: Spending time alone can be a powerful form of self-care, allowing you to recharge your mental and emotional batteries. The peace and quiet of solitude can help you better manage stress and anxiety, ultimately promoting overall well-being.
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Practical Steps to Embrace Solitude
If you’re ready to experience the transformative power of spending time alone, consider incorporating the following practices into your daily routine:
Schedule dedicated time alone: Set aside a specific time each day for solitude, and treat it as a nonnegotiable appointment with yourself. This will help you prioritize self-reflection and ensure you’re consistently reaping the benefits of solitude.
Create a comfortable space: Designate a quiet, relaxing area in your home where you can retreat for your alone time. This might be a cozy reading nook, a peaceful corner in your backyard, or even a relaxing bubble bath.
Eliminate distractions: Turn off your phone, computer, and other electronic devices during your scheduled solitude to create an environment that fosters self-reflection and introspection.
Practice mindfulness: Use your time alone to engage in mindfulness exercises, such as meditation or deep breathing, to help you focus on your thoughts and feelings. This can enhance the benefits of solitude by promoting greater self-awareness and emotional regulation.
Keep a journal: Writing down your thoughts and feelings during your alone time can provide valuable insights into your inner world. Journaling can also help you track your personal growth and identify patterns in your thoughts and emotions over time.
Embrace hobbies and interests: Use your solitude to explore your passions and interests, whether that’s reading, painting, gardening, or any other creative pursuit. Engaging in enjoyable activities can boost your mood and enhance your overall well-being.
Start small and be patient: If you’re new to spending time alone, adjusting and feeling comfortable with the practice might take some time. Start by setting aside a few minutes each day, gradually increasing the duration as you become more accustomed to solitude.
Remember, the journey of self-discovery is unique to each individual. Embrace the process, and allow yourself the time and space to explore your inner world. As Emily’s story illustrates, the transformative power of spending time alone can lead to remarkable growth and a more fulfilling life.
Wishing you an inspiring time with yourself,
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Dr. Itai Ivtzan is a positive psychologist, Professor at Naropa University, and the director of the School of Positive Transformation.
Check out Itai Ivtzan’s Single Session Therapy on Psychology Today: bit.ly/Psych-Today123
You can find his courses on his school’s website: www.SchoolofPositiveTransformation.com/
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His most popular courses are the online Meditation and Mindfulness Teacher Training, which offers an in-depth training to become a formal teacher of meditation, and the Positive Psychology Practitioner Certificate, which certifies you as a positive psychology practitioner.
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